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I have yet to develop those shots from brighton (-1)

however, I did take some more shots, a whole 3rd roll of film to add to my develop que (+1)

I also had an adventure with Meeshi recently and borrowed her camera for some shots so hopefully I can get those from her soon and get them up here.

Goals for the next 7 days include developing 3 rolls of film, cleaning those photos up and getting them posted, snagging the shots from the other night with Meeshi and getting those posted, having another adventure with Meeshi and hopefully getting some good shots, planning some sort of impromptu halloween creep show shoot, and seeing what i can set up for the Six Shooter halloween bash.

Whew! i'm going to be busy!

Oh! I also have some shots from last month that i took on a friend camera that I need to get from her as well as cleaning up the rest of the shots on her camera since she's slightly camera/computer/photoshop illiterate. heh. ^_^

I promise more updates soon but until then check out the new posts over at Meeshi Sense. Meeshi just put up 2 or 3 new sets that have some really fantastic shots in there!!!

Del Bosque a fine partita ha commentato in questo modo: "E' stata una partita di gran sacrificio, per cui devo, e dobbiamo, ringraziare i giocatori oer quello che hanno fatto questa sera. Abbiamo dimostrato di avere dei giocatori che squadra abbiamo. Abbiamo giocatori di grande qualità, in grado di fare ciò che Iniesta stasera a mostrato a tutti, e anche di grande energia come Puyol che ha risolto diversi problemi. E' un buon mix di giocatori."

Il selezionatore spagnolo aveva avvertito del pericolo Belgio, il cui gioco era nelle proprie aspettative. "E' una squadra molto forte che ci ha lasciato ben poco spazio per le combinazioni. Simons avanzato a metà campo per ammanetare i nostri centrocampisti, ma l'attenzione, la prudenza e la nostra qualità è stata la chiave. Certamente con un po' di fortuna nel finale, ma si tratta di un meritato trionfo per i giocatori ", ha dichiarato.

Del Bosque poi ha terminato con l'esaltazione del "golazo" di Andrés Iniesta. "Coloro che amano il calcio hanno una ragione in più per godere. Lo ha segnato un giocatore che sembra passare inosservato nella sua vita calcistica, m il campo ha sancito la grandezza delle sue qualità".

Sometimes, I think I know, and other times, I know I don't know.  Some days, I wish I could be one of those people who just always knew they wanted to be a doctor, teacher, or lawyer - you know the type, and live happily ever after pursuing and living that dream.

My dreams, on the other hand are quite abstract and shall we say, a little fuzzy.  Clearly, I dream of moments and circumstances - what makes my heart go aflutter are the intangibles of a moving target that changes as my learning changes.  Sometimes, these intangibles drive others NUTS.  "Just why can't you speak in clear words about chairs and things?  Why does it have to be abstract IDEAS?"  Ha ha. 

What I needed 10 years ago, is far different than what I need now, or 10 years from now.  Not even - 10 months from now.  I keep learning, growing and changing along with my new target, for the truth is, I keep attaining and surpassing those close-by targets and then find the view is a little different as I head towards new ones.  I wish I could see the final target - just what is it?  Yet, it is very possible there is no end because there are so many possibilities and opportunities that my brain is not able to understand. 

Sometimes I seem to get a clearer picture, and then just as quickly, I'll lose the moment  - just what was that clear, defined picture of, and how do I get it back?

For those who always had an end-goal - I'm happy for you.  For those like me - it can be a frustrating but also enjoyable journey of contrasts, learning and agility training.  I wonder what's up ahead and how it will change my life.

- Daisy

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Cica negocierile astea au si ele logica lor ... ma rog ... nu ca eu nu ma gandeam la fel inainte, dar sa spunem ca eu sunt mai mica si mai blonda si n-am incercat niciodata sa dezvolt un set de reguli in privinta asta ... shame on me ... chiar am gresit-o aici. Mda. N-am decat 24 de ani, cred ca e de inteles cand o dau in bara, nu? :)).

Asa ... cica introducerea in tehnici de negociere suna ceva de genu` asta. Cica mai intai de toate, adica first of all, trebuie sa stii extrem de bine ceea ce vrei, si, in acelasi timp, sa te pregatesti sa obtii ceea ce vrei, si despre asta o sa vorbesc in detaliu, imediat dupa 2-3 paragrafe, ca asta implica viziune si scopuri, si exact despre asta vroiam sa va zic.

Dupa aia ... cica exista o regula de aur in negocieri, care regula de aur zice ca ... dom`le ... nici un nene sau tanti sau neni sau tantili n`or sa vina sa negocieze cu tine ceva, orice, decat daca ei cred ca tu sau ii poti ajuta cu ceva, sau ii poti rani cu ceva. Implicit, cand te trezesti negociind cu un nene, tu tre sa stii ca nenea ala negociaza cu tine sau ca are nevoie de ajutorul tau, sau ca esti un fel de dusman, somebody who wants to hurt him/she/them, ca altfel n-ar fi acolo.

Nu ne-a explicat aproape deloc ce e cu regula, de fapt, ce e cu fear of hurting him, probabil ca mai sunt vreo 13 saptamani pt asta, dar eu banuiesc ca e important sa poti sa decizi corect daca nenea ala e in fata ta ca are nevoie de tine, sau ca se teme de tine, ca automat asta poate schimba datele problemei, stilul, modul de abordare, si, per total, cum pui problema. Probabil e vorba de o calitate innascuta aici, pentru ca, sigur, nimeni n`o sa vina la tine sa-ti zica ca e in fata ta pentru ca el crede ca tu-i poti face ceva rau ... intr-o privinta ..., tre sa te prinzi singur! Ma rog, profa a incercat si ea sa abordeze provestea prin exemple, dar exemplele ei nu erau prea relevante ... ea vrea ca noi sa fim happy si zambitori si optimisti, si cred ca refuza sa ne aduca la cunostinta mizeriile vietii de business, ceea ce nu e deloc un lucru bun, dar trecem peste. E bine si cat ne povesteste :).

Apoi cica exista 5 elemente ale unei negocieri, care alea sunt asa: partile implicate si interesele fiecaruia dintre ele, tu cica trebuie sa analizezi foarte bine treaba asta, sa stii exact cine sunt toti cei cu implicatie, si sa incerci sa descoperi cat mai in detaliu ce anume vor ei sa obtina. Apoi este interdependenta, apoi bunurile comune, apoi flexibilitatea, apoi capacitatea de a lua decizii. Cica astea sunt cele 5 elemente ale unei negocieri.

Aaaa ... si ne-a sfatuit prieteneste sa ne focus on, adica sa ne batem capul, cu oameni care intr-adevar folosesc ceea ce noi avem de oferit. Banuiesc ca asta e o chestiune de eficacitate, de a nu pierde timp si resurse in zadar. O colega a zis ca ea crede ca tre sa iti bati capul cu toti cei care au nevoie de ceea ce tu ai de oferit, nu doar cu cei care intr-adevar folosesc ceea ce noi oferim. Profa a zis ca e wrong. Cumva e logic. Pai ce preferi ... sa stai sa alergi dupa 1000 de clienti, sa-ti bati capul cu ei, ca poate poate ii convingi sa renunte la concurenta si sa ia de la tine, sau sa ai 10 clienti cu care sa faci bani regulat si sa iti bati capul in primul rand sa fie ei fericiti, si pentru restul, sa-i atrage, sa acorzi un timp si resurse mai putine? Asta sunt 2 metode diferite de management al realtiilor cu clientii, unele firme aleg prima varianta, altele pe a doua, depinde acum de obiectul actiunii, sa zicem asa, de ceea ce tu oferi si de targetul pe care il ai. Idea e ca in prmul rand iti bati capul si iti faci timp pentru cei care deja folosesc ceea ce tu oferi, restul sunt pe locul 2, daca mai ramane ceva si pentru ei, cel putin asta e sfatul academic.

Acum, faza de care vroiam sa va zic. Si-a inceput profa cursul intrebandu-ne daca noi consideram ca suntem de succes in toate negocierile pe care le purtam in viata. Nu era vorba neaparat de business, 99% din colegii mei probabil nu au semnat niciodata un contract ...! Era vorba de viata, asa ...! Ma rog, ne-a cam inchis, era prea mult sa consideri ca tu esti successfull in tot ce faci :))), mai ales ca e 100% clar si indubitabil ca nu e adevarat :). Apoi ne-a intrebat de ce credem noi ca nu suntem successfull in toate negocierile noastre din viata ... fiecare cu parerea lui aici ... diverse pareri ... ea ne-a zis apoi clar si raspicat: ca nu avem un vision pentru viata noastra, o directie clar stabilita in mintea noastra, de asta ne e greu sa avem succes :).

Cica trebuie sa avem stabilita o directie veritabila in viata ..., si dupa ce am facut chestia asta, sa avem un master plan. Cica master planul asta la care fiecare om ar trebui sa se gandeasca, sa-l puna pe hartie, si sa il revizuiasca si updateze in fiecare an al vietii lui, ar trebui sa contina asa: o viziune, care e de fapt telul suprem in viata, cat mai abstract, ce anume vrei sa realizezi intr-un sfarsit?! ... in termeni mai abstracti asa, tre sa fie asta ...!

Apoi tre sa iti scrii pe hartie foarte clar si cat mai obiectiv care sunt atu-urile tale, valorile tale, si care sunt limitele tale.

Apoi, la partea a 3-a a masterplanului, ar trebuie sa fie the goals, adica scopurile alea specifice si masurabile, de exemplu, eu daca vreau 4 combinate cand o sa am maxim 60 de ani, profa a zis ca asta e un goal, e exemplu de scop, nu unul de viziune. Un alt goal al meu e sa termin 2009 cu minim 300 000 de dolari la bursa, de exemplu, e tot un goal. Deci la din astea ar trebui sa se gandeasca oamenii cica, si sa le treaca pe hartie. Si goal-urile se updateaza permanent, si de obicei ar trebui sa fie stabilite asa ... anual, sau nush .. lunar ... sau periodic, oricum. Evident, fiecare scop atins, sa mai insemne inca un pas in implinirea viziunii noastre in viata. Cred ca intelegeti.

Apoi cica este planul de actiune. Adica ... dupa ce ti-ai stabilit goal`ul pe 2009, sa zicem 300 000 de dolari la bursa, te asezi frumos in pat si te gandesti: cum naiba as putea sa fac asta?! Identifici toate posibilitatile, te gandesti la toate caile, daca nu esti inca pe bursa, sa ajungi acolo, de unde iei banii ca sa ajungi, daca esti deja acolo, te gandesti ... cat mai ai acolo, cum te descurci cu ei, sunt ei o baza destul de bine manevrabila sa te ajute sa-ti indeplinesti scopul concret, trebuie sa mai pui aduci de acasa, de unde o sa-i iei? Ce cunostinte teoretice ai pana acum, cat trebuie sa mai asimilezi, de unde asimilezi, cum iti dramuiesti timpul sa asimilezi? Chestii din astea. Asta asa, exemplu, despre cum arata un plan de actiune. Si toate astea le scrii acolo, ti le bagi bine in cap, si te tii de ele, si tre sa revii la master planul tau in viata an de an, cica e regula asta.

Ne-a dat si niste intrebari, depsre care ea a spus ca ne pot ajuta foarte bine sa ne cream o viziune de viata corecta, sa fim foarte realisti cand raspundem la ele, si pe baza a ceea ce raspundem sa ne alegem ceva care chiar sa fie de nasul nostru. De exemplu, eu as face o imensa prostie sa ma bag in vanzari, de exemplu ... cand mie`mi plac calculele, formulele, planificarea, partea financiara, si in general fug sau cel putin evit sa vand eu chestii, orice, mie-mi place munca de back office, nu aia de front office! Ar fi o prostie pentru mine sa vreau o cariera in vanzari. Asa cum ar fi o prostie sa vreau cariera in marketing ... pentru ca eu nu sunt creativa si artistica ...! Asa cum nici manager general nu mi-ar placea sa fiu ... din nou, ar trebui sa interactionez cu mai multi oameni decat am chef eu sa interactionez, sa-mi bat capul cu tot felul de oameni si chestii care nu-mi plac, si nu mi se potrivesc, si atunci, mai bine las locul altcuiva, cel putin cand este posibil sa faci asta. Despre asta e vorba ... fiecare avem limite, si trebuie sa tinem cont de ele.

Intrebarile pe care trebuie sa vi le puneti sunt cam astea:

- La ce esti tu bun?

- Ce lucruri pozitive spun oamenii depsre tine? Ce apreciaza oamenii la tine, in general?

- Ce vrei sa realizezi in urmatorii 3 ani?

- Care sunt chestiile pe care vrei neaparat sa le eviti in viata?

- Ce iti place cel mai mult de faci cand ai timp liber?

- Ce anume, concret, vrei sa lasi mostenire urmasilor tai?

- Descrie o zi ideala din viata ta

Incercati sa raspundeti cat mai sincer si mai obiectiv, ca nu va vede nimeni acasa, nu comenteaza nimeni, nu nimic, fiti voi cu voi insiva, pe bune, la modul real, si, la sfarsit, incercati sa analizati obiectiv raspunsurile si sa va decideti aspura a ceva, care nu doar sa va placa, dar sa se si potriveasca cu firea voastra. Degeaba iti place ceva daca tu nu esti facut pentru acel ceva ..., pentru ca daca e doar pasiunea, si nu sunt si calitatile necesare, oricum nu veti reusi sa fiti de top in domeniul ala. Pana mea. Shit happens. Si idea e sa iti alegi ceva, si sa ajungi de top in ce ti-ai ales, nu asa, un oarecare, parerea mea :)).

Aaaa ... sic e ne-a mai zis ea, ca dom`le, suntem tineri, sa nu permitem sa ne maturizam mai devreme decat e cazul, la varsta noastra inca putem sa: think big, aim high, act bold, and dream, dream a lot :).

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V-am zis ca azi, cand am plecat de la scoala, intre miile de masini pe care le vad zilnic in bucuresti, s-a facut ca am vazut-o tocmai pe a tipului care nu e de nasul meu de pe hi5? :). Nu cred ca el m-a vazut, nu cred ca se uita in zona aia, era in trafic si strada era plina, bara la bara. Urasc chestia asta ... frate ... nu se poate ... bucurestiul e imens, sunt probabil peste 2 mil de oameni zilnic in el, sunt sute de mii de masini aici, e foarte greu sa vezi intamplator un cunoscut pe strada, in mormanul de masini, nu e ca la galati sau ca la targoviste ...! Ma rog ... e clar ca e o simpla coincidenta, dar ma enerveaza la culme sa se intample ...! Chiar nu vroiam sa stiu ca mai exista, si insist in continuare sa nu stiu ca exista.

A few months back, my purple, leather-bound journal reminded me of things that I wanted to achieve...my goal...which I wrote about in this post.  That was in July.  I was able to print and post the Lose Weight Sign but it got blown off by the fan after 2 weeks or so, after which my enthusiasm got blown away too.  It was really hard for me because of the whole diet, and since I am the one cooking, I end up doing a lot of tasting, etc.

Last month, even without the sign telling me what I wanted, I decided to try once more.  I dragged my sister to Himawari Apartment Hotel on Sisowath Quay to inquire about their fitness club membership.  I told myself that aside from working out, we will learn how to swim and play tennis.  That is a lot to do but we were very enthusiastic and ready to do it.  The place was beautiful with a great view of the river while working out.  They also had aerobics and dance classes for a minimal fee.  The membership fee was $80 a month per person which would include unlimited use of the gym and swimming pool, tennis court which we can use as well as long as we book it for an hour each time.  There was no limit of how many times we can use the court.  We can also pay a coach $10 per hour to teach us how to play.  We were ready to sign up so we asked for a form each.  We asked to look at their tennis court booking form and it was swamped!  They only had one tennis court and our enthusiasm about the place started to wane.  We told them we'll think about it and left. 

We were a bit down when we left the place and thought about just going to Phnom Penh Hotel where we used to go.  Membership fee there was also $80 but they did not have a tennis court and their fitness instructor wasn't much help to us the last time but they did have a Steam and Sauna Room which made us retain it on our list.  VIP Club was also a place where we could go to.  Their membership fee was only $60 a month with a swimming pool, several tennis courts and Steam and Sauna Rooms and Massage room as well.  But they were not as clean as those in the hotels and we were not really too happy about that.  So we thought we would just enroll there as a last resort.

As we went out of Himawari, we thought of checking out Hotel Cambodiana which was just next door.  It's a beautiful hotel with a great view of the river as well.  I know they have a swimming pool and tennis court as well as a gym but was not sure whether their membership fees were affordable or not but we still went anyway.  There was nothing wrong about asking.  As we went inside their gym, we saw that it was only a small place.  We were still enthusiastic and asked about their fees...it was $56 a month.  We were ecstatic, far lower than VIP.  They have a swimming pool too and not one but two tennis courts and a third one being constructed.  Yey!!!  There was a down side though, they did not have a Steam or Sauna room.  But we thought about it and we decided to enroll there, it was a far cry from VIP, too...in a hotel setting.  We signed up, paid our membership fees and informed them that we will be back the next day.  We were skipping when we left.

That was last month.  On Saturday, we renewed our membership because we were quite satisfied.  We are missing the Sauna and Steam Room but it was ok.  The staff are helping us a lot and were guiding us on what we should do.  We have been going to the gym almost everyday and though we haven't lost a noticeable amount of weight yet but we have noticed that we are building our stamina and we are enjoying so much of our time here.  Only Sis has learned how to swim already, I am still scared but can now go from one end of the pool to the other...crosswise...hehe! 

Last week, they started an aerobics class every Monday and Wednesday and we have joined that too and are enjoying.  The Latin Dance Class has been temporarily postponed because they have closed off the part where the Dance Studio is.  But from what we heard they were building something else...drumroll please....Steam and Sauna Rooms plus additional shower rooms!  YEY!!!  I'm sooo happy. 

We bought our tennis racquets yesterday and we are planning our Tennis Lessons on Thursday.  Why not today?  Today is Aerobics Day...:)  That's why we are really on our way to losing weight. 

My challenge is to present the wiki in a way that it is very easy to understand.  I guess my fear is that I will freak this attorney out by making her think that it is too complicated to add info and make changes into our internal wiki.  But, I tried it for the first time this Monday and I didn't freak out...therefore she shouldn't freak out either, right?  It didn't seem all that hard to use.  Wish me luck! I will try to make it as easy as possible.

I never knew I could last this long after trying this diet again after 2 years. :) But I'm proud. My only motivation was the fact that I really want to lose weight. And now that I've achieved my target date, it's now time to start Phase 2 of my diet - No Dinner Diet!

Not eating rice was difficult enough. For sure not eating dinner will be even more challenging. Again, I'll try doing it for a month - and see if it affects my health. Because before, when I had this no-rice diet, I used to faint all the time. I was hypoglycemic then. My blood sugar was low because I wasn't breaking down any from my minimum intake of carbohydrates. This time, I've been compensating for my carbs with pastas, noodles, bread and potatoes. Moreover, I'm also not missing out on any meals, and I still have my snacks. A lot of people had been telling me that this diet has no effect whatsoever because I still eat a lot. In fact, I find this diet effective because I can now have lighter meals and be contented unlike before. Rice can really make us feel so full, and I also break it down quickly. So whenever I feel that I'm not as full anymore, I immediately think I have to eat because I'm going hungry.

These days, I'm getting contented with light meals. :) Oh well, except that time of the month when my hormones go crazy and then I get PMS. I never could really actualize my diet at that point.

I really hope that the no dinner diet, commonly known as after-six diet, would work and help me lose more inches and pounds!

I'll also try to have a better sleeping patter so that I will wake up early and have some time for exercises!:)

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During the summer, I set a pretty aggressive weight loss goal for myself.  And without bragging, I can say that I've made tremendous progress so far.  I've tried to do it the right way: increasing the intensity of my exercise, changing my eating habits, and trying to get more rest.

But here's my problem: I hit a plateau.

Despite my disciplined efforts, my body settled into a weight, and I've been at this point for nearly 5 weeks.  And to be quite honest with you, this is very frustrating.  I'm still working hard, still watching my diet, and no movement on the scale.

Frustrated, I talked to the people at my gym, and what they told me relieved some of the frustration.  The reality is that our bodies are always trying to achieve homeostasis -- a physical equilibrium that your body craves.  Even with all the changes I made to get me to this point, my body got acclimated to my routine.  Yes, even our bodies desire to find a comfortable place and stay there.  (And this frustration often causes people to quit and go back to their bad habits.)

Long story short, the only way to break beyond the plateau and move forward to the ultimate goal is to CHANGE THE ROUTINE.

I've changed the exercises that I do.  I started a boxing routine instead of the elliptical machine for cardio.  And I've even started taking a zumba dance class.  And these changes in the routine have started producing results again.

The other aspects of our lives function in the same way.  Don't get stuck on the plateau.  Make the necessary adjustments in your life so that you can achieve your ultimate goal!

by Susan Patterson

Everyone has a goal weight in mind.  Sometimes when we’re dieting we get so caught up on the desired end result that each day we forget to rejoice in the small miracles that happen on our journey.  Don’t obsess over your goal weight.  Set small short-term goals.  The Jerusalem Diet can help shift the focus from that final number to the daily changes that occur along the way. 

The plan is pretty simple, and you don’t need a lot of fancy exercise equipment or expensive food to lose.  There are two types of eating patterns, one called “fat” and the other “normal.”  Make sure that you have a calendar and scale before you begin.  When you start, you want to weigh yourself in the morning and write down your weekly goal weight for the next few months.  Simply subtract one pound each week and write that as your goal. 

To decide which kind of eating plan you will follow, you must weight yourself every morning.  If you are equal to or below your goal weight for the week it is a normal day.  Anything above your goal means it’s a fat day.  On normal days, you can eat whatever you like without worrying about exercise.  For the fat days, you can only eat fruits, vegetables, seeds and nuts.  You can’t drink anything but water and have to exercise for at least one hour on these days.  Many people have reported success with this diet, as it requires a daily shift in habits.  Some even experience quick weight loss at a higher rate than one pound a week, though that’s all the diet requires.

This diet is rather simple to implement and can be used in conjunction with other plans.  It doesn’t promote any radical theories like food combining or no carbohydrates, but a gradual change in habits that lead to permanent weight loss.  By allowing you to make your own choices most of the time, the goal is for you to naturally choose what’s best for you based on the results you see.  If hunger is a problem, try using an appetite suppressant like hoodia to help make it through those fat days.

2. MENYALAHKAN DIRI SENDIRI
Menyalahkan diri sendiri bahwa dirinya merasa tidak mampu. Anda pernah mengalaminya ? Kalau anda bilang tidak pernah, berarti anda bohong."Ah, dia sih bisa, dia ahli, dia punya jabatan, dia berbakat dsb, Lha saya ini apa ?, wah saya nggak bisa deh. Dia S3, lha saya SMP, wah nggak bisa deh. Dia punya waktu banyak, saya sibuk, pasti nggak bisa deh". Penyakit ini seperti kanker, tambah besar, besar di dalam mental diri sehingga bisa mencapai "improper guilty feeling". Jadi walau yang salah partner, anak buah, atau bahkan atasan, berani bilang "Saya kok yang memang salah, tidak mampu dsb". Penyakit ini pelan-pelan bisa membunuh kita. Merasa inferior, kita tidak punya kemampuan. Kita sering membandingkan keberhasilan orang lain dengan kekurangan kita, sehingga keberhasilan orang lain dianggap Wajar karena mereka punya sesuatu lebih yang kita tidak punya.

3. TIDAK PUNYA GOAL / CITA-CITA
Kita sering terpaku dengan kesibukan kerja, tetapi arahnya tidak jelas. Sebaiknya kita selalu mempunyai target kerja dengan milestone. Buat target jangka panjang dan jangka pendek secara tertulis. Ilustrasinya kayak gini: Ada anjing jago lari yang sombong. Apa sih yang nggak bisa saya kejar, kuda aja kalah sama saya. Kemudian ada kelinci lompat-lompat, kiclik, kiclik, kiclik. Temannya bilang: "Nah tuh ada kelinci, kejar aja". Dia kejar itu kelinci, wesss...., kelinci lari lebih kencang, anjingnya ngotot ngejar dan kelinci lari sipat-kuping (sampai nggak dengar/peduli apa-apa), dan akhirnya nggak terkejar, kelinci masuk pagar. Anjing kembali lagi ke temannya dan diketawain. "Ah lu, katanya jago lari, sama kelinci aja nggak bisa kejar. Katanya lu paling kencang". "Lha dia goalnya untuk tetap hidup sih, survive, lha gua goalnya untuk fun aja sih". Kalau "GOAL" kita hanya untuk "FUN", isi waktu aja, ya hasilnya cuma terengah-engah saja.

4. MEMPUNYAI "GOAL", TAPI NGAWUR MENCAPAINYA
Biasanya dialami oleh orang yang tidak "teachable". Goalnya salah, fokus kita juga salah, jalannya juga salah, arahnya juga salah. Ilustrasinya kayak gini : ada pemuda yang terobsesi dengan emas, karena pengaruh tradisi yang mendewakan emas. Pemuda ini pergi ke pertokoan dan mengisi karungnya dengan emas dan seenaknya ngeloyor pergi. Tentu saja ditangkap polisi dan ditanya. Jawabnya : Pokoknya saya mau emas, saya nggak mau lihat kiri-kanan.

5. MENGAMBIL JALAN PINTAS, SHORT CUT
Keberhasilan tidak pernah dilalui dengan jalan pintas. Jalan pintas tidak membawa orang ke kesuksesan yang sebenarnya, real success, karena tidak mengikuti proses. Kalau kita menghindari proses, ya nggak matang, kalaupun matang ya dikarbit. Jadi, tidak ada tuh jalan pintas. Pemain bulutangkis Indonesia bangun jam 5 pagi, lari keliling Senayan, melakukan smesh 1000 kali. Itu bukan jalan pintas. Nggak ada orang yang leha-leha tiap hari pakai sarung, terus tiba- tiba jadi juara bulu tangkis. Nggak ada ! Kalau anda disuruh taruh uang 1 juta, dalam 3 minggu jadi 3 juta, masuk akal nggak tuh ? Nggak mungkin !. Karena hal itu melawan kodrat.

6. MENGAMBIL JALAN TERLALU PANJANG, TERLALU SANTAI
Analoginya begini : Pesawat terbang untuk bisa take-off, harus mempunyai kecepatan minimum. Pesawat Boeing 737, untuk dapat take-off, memerlukan kecepatan minimum 300 km/jam. Kalau kecepatan dia cuma 50 km/jam, ya cuma ngabis-ngabisin avtur aja, muter-muter aja. Lha kalau jalannya, runwaynya lurus anda cuma pakai kecepatan 50 km/jam, ya nggak bisa take-off, malah nyungsep iya. Iya kan ?

7. MENGABAIKAN HAL-HAL YANG KECIL
Dia maunya yang besar-besar, yang heboh, tapi yang kecil-kecil nggak dikerjain. Dia lupa bahwa struktur bangunan yang besar, pasti ada komponen yang kecilnya. Maunya yang hebat aja. Mengabaikan hal kecil aja nggak boleh, apalagi mengabaikan orang kecil.

8. TERLALU CEPAT MENYERAH
Jangan berhenti kerja pada masa percobaan 3 bulan. Bukan mengawali dengan yang salah yang bikin orang gagal, tetapi berhenti pada tempat yang salah. Mengawali dengan salah bisa diperbaiki, tetapi berhenti di tempat yang salah repot sekali.

9. BAYANG-BAYANG MASA LALU
Wah puitis sekali, saya suka sekali dengan yang ini. Karena apa ? Kita selalu penuh memori kan? Apa yang kita lakukan, masuk memori kita, minimal sebagai pertimbangan kita untuk langkah kita berikutnya. Apalagi kalau kita pernah gagal, nggak berani untuk mencoba lagi. Ini bisa balik lagi ke penyakit nomer-3. Kegagalan sebagai akibat bayang-bayang masa lalu yang tidak terselesaikan dengan semestinya. Itu bayang-bayang negatif. Memori kita kadang- kadang sangat membatasi kita untuk maju ke depan. Kita kadang-kadang lupa bahwa hidup itu maju terus. "Waktu" itu maju kan? Ada nggak yang punya jam yang jalannya terbalik?? Nggak ada kan? Semuanya maju, hidup itu maju. Lari aja ke depan, kalaupun harus jatuh, pasti ke depan kok. Orang yang berhasil, pasti pernah gagal. Itu memori negatif yang menghalangi kesuksesan.

10. MENGHIPNOTIS DIRI DENGAN KESUKSESAN SEMU
Biasa disebut Pseudo Success Syndrome. Kita dihipnotis dengan itu. Kita kalau pernah berhasil dengan sukses kecil, terus berhenti, nggak kemana-mana lagi. Sudah puas dengan sukses kecil tersebut. Napoleon pernah menyatakan: "Saat yang paling berbahaya datang bersama dengan kemenangan yang besar". Itu saat yang paling berbahaya, karena orang lengah, mabuk kemenangan. Jangan terjebak dengan goal-goal hasil yang kecil, karena kita akan menembak sasaran yang besar, goal yang jauh. Jangan berpuas diri, ntar jadi sombong, terus takabur.

Silahkan direnungkan mengenai benar atau tidaknya, semua berpulang pada pendapat masing2 orang.

sumber : sunatullah.com

Much like running you just start.  You have an idea of how it should go, but in the end it will turnout the way it is supposed to; just maybe not how you wanted it to.  Every day is a good day to run, everyday is a good day to write.  Every day is a good day to improve on both.  Their will be good days, their will be bad days.  But the goal can only be met by moving forward.  So I move forward.

I may never win a Pulitzer prize, or a running race. But much like my running me, my writing me has the desire to do better; that is how I compete.

My shoe withdraws from the comfort the ground and soil gave it.
It is lifted as I take the first step forward.

The hardened soil will soon fall from it as I move forward.

No one will get in my way, and if they attempt to they will
be pushed down with all the might and rage in me.

My eyes are completely and fully white, for they do not see anything other
a goal.

My throne awaits.

GO GLAM!

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To go glam, you’ve got to embrace color.  Keep the dark, saturated jewel tones, such as Navy or Sweet Plum, close to the base of the lash.  Make sure you blend the color well so it fades up toward the brow bone.

1. To create a sultry eye with liquid eyeliner, pull the skin slightly and then draw the brush across your lash-line with a single swoop.  Start with a lean face and with a little practice – you’ll be a pro in no time!
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Gem Fatale – the smoky eye technique!

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I will be taking the month of November to leave this project. I am participating in National Novel Writing Month and I will be spending the entire month challenging myself to winning (meaning writing a 50,000 word novel) the challenge.

My ultimate goal, will be announced later in the week, once I have a layout of where the story is going and what is already completed.

I am struggling to keep everything straight. I overanalyze in general. Doing this outline in a detailed, timely manner is going to be an exercise in throwing away the restraints in my head. I will not overanalyze and just go for big plot points through to the end.

Currently, the book is at 35,000 words, the goal is a short novel of 60,000, which will be filled out during editing.

Pg 121 – This has the idea of a “color lens.” It would be interesting to have an “identity lens,” similar to a color lens, like seeing something through another identity’s eyes.

Pg 130 – “Arthur Chickering (1976) defines experiential learning as ‘the learning that occurs when changes in judgments, feelings, knowledge, or skills result for a particular person from living through an event or events’ (p. 63).” ~ Experience leads to greater identity development.

Pg 131 – While talking about a case study mentions that often missing from people is the ability to bring together “essential competencies,” the things that a person does very well. ~ Understanding what one does well leads to one understanding their own personal history, and, in turn, their identity more.

Pg 132-133 – “…Students were highly influenced and motivated by supervisors who validated them as knowers by treating them as knowledgeable and trustworthy from the onset of their internship experience.” ~ Challenge and support idea again.

Pg 139 – “These experiences provided challenge in the form of dissonance that granted students the opportunity to reconsider their multiple roles and their personal identity in the big picture of life.” ~ Dissonance leads students to greater identity development. It is necessary to develop, it’s the challenge of challenge and support.

Pg 142 – “Rhoads (2000) argued, ‘Reflection is key to promoting the self because it forces students to give serious thought to their experience and their overall lives’ (p 43).” ~ Reflection leads to understanding leads to development.

Pg 151 – “ ‘I hope you come to find that which gives life a deep meaning for you. Something worth living for – maybe even worth dying for – something that energizes you, enthuses you, enables you to keep moving ahead. I can’t tell you what it might be. That’s for you to find, to choose, to love.’” ~ Nice quote, absolutely nothing to do with identiy.

Pg 168 – How to bring about dissonance in students and what stages the students develop in afterwards. ~ Important!!

Pg 174 – “As students make the shift from defining themselves on the basis of other people’s beliefs and values toward becoming the authors of their lives, they experience dissonance in many areas, including the area of relationships.” ~ Dissonance from not being consumed by other’s beliefs.

Pg 178 – From a student’s quote, “I am embracing the idea that it is a process of becoming me. Today Beth is Beth and tomorrow she will be someone different and you can never fully capture who someone is.” ~ I love this! This is the idea that identity is never static put into words!

Pg 186 – “Students’ ways of knowing – that is, how they acquire, analyze, and judge knowledge – moves from a view that knowledge is certain or absolute and obtained from authorities to a view that knowledge is contextual and judged on the basis of evidence (Baxter Magolda, 1992). Students’ sense of self evolves from one defined primarily by how others articulate who the individual is to one based on self-reflection and self-definition (Chickering & Reisser, 1993).” ~ Not being consumed idea, again.

Pg 233 – It mentions Kegan’s theory of self-evolution. ~ Need to research Kegan…

Pg 245 – “The power of any framing device is that it provides a way of interpreting and giving meaning to the events, large and small, that we encounter in any domain of interest.” ~ Am I creating a development theory of framework for identity?

Pg 261 – “It takes time for groups to mature as communities. Many of our current FSGs have been in place for 2-4 years. From year to year, the membership may change somewhat with the loss of a member and the addition of another, but the agendas of the groups develop slowly and tend to progress in a manner that suggests a longer life span than we had first anticipated.” ~ Idea of culture growing, expanding and changing, important to the idea of personal identity.

Pg 261 – “…Bruner (1990) that storytelling is the premier vehicle for the social constructions of meaning and that storytelling can in fact be a prime indicator of movement from peripheral participation in the community to more central roles.” ~ Storytelling comes from experience, closest some have to actual experiences that change their identity.

Pg 267 – “Frames help us see familiar goals in new and sometimes disturbing ways.” ~ Nice quote.

Pg 315 – “To what extent do learners currently possess the self-authorship capacities required to achieve these learning goals? Identifying the underlying assumptions about knowledge, self, and relationships that learners currently hold is necessary to answer this question.” ~ This will help when creating final theory.

Pg 320 – “Three assumptions about learning serve as the foundation for Learning Partnerships Model practices: (a) knowledge is complex and socially constructed, (b) self is central to knowledge construction, and (c) expertise and authority are mutually shared among peers in knowledge construction.” ~ Rephrases earlier statement better.

Pg 323 – “Baxter Magolda identified three pedagogical principles that are central to connecting the three assumptions to learners’ current ways of making meaning and thus provide three specific steps that educators can examine for application to their own areas of practice: (a) validate students’ ability to know, (b) situate learning in learners’ experience, and (c) mutually construct meaning with learners.” ~ Rephrases earlier statement better.

Because one’s own particular inheritances and experiences form an interpretive framework both for the construction of identity and for all further learning, all students should be encouraged to study these inheritances and to become conversant with and conscious of the images, symbols, stories, and vocabularies that comprise their own experience of cultural connections and particularities. (p. 21) (~ This is kind of another explanation of a personal history)

These authors also recognized that understanding oneself would be insufficient. They advocated understanding others’ histories and identities as well, writing, (~ Another aspect of my theory, that not only do you need to understand yourself, but others, as well)

Because our graduates will be part of a society that depends on engagement across difference, they need studies and experiences that enable them to become fluent in one another’s vocabularies and histories and to discover value in other ways of conceiving the world. (p. 21)

Finally, they noted,

Because issues of cultural diversity and racial inequity go directly to the core of human identity and self-knowledge, students should encounter these topics affectively as well as intellectually, learning to draw on experience and human empathy as well as rationality and analysis. (p. 22)” (~Good final goal for the theory)

Pg 5 – “Intercultural maturity includes the ability to use multiple cultural frames to construct knowledge, engaging in meaningful relationships with diverse others that are grounded in appreciation of difference, and the capacity to openly engage challenges to one’s beliefs.” ~ Basically, I think this rephrases my idea of identity lens’s. Also, it uses the idea of having to interpret things in many different ways at once. So you cannot just look at a situation or person in only on context, but in multiple contexts.

Pg 5 – From Lisa Landreman (2003) “achieving consciousness implies an understanding of self and identity (intrapersonal) in a historical and socio-cultural-political context (interpersonal), achieved through reflection (cognitive) and action” (p. 66).” ~ Again talks about the understanding of one’s identity in terms of various aspects, not just a single one.

Pg 6 – “Collectively, these reports suggest that contemporary college learning outcomes should include the following:
-    Cognitive maturity, characterized by intellectual power, reflective judgment, mature decision making, and problem solving in the context of multiplicity
-    An integrated identity, characterized by understanding one’s own particular history, confidence, the capacity for autonomy and connection, and integrity
-    Mature relationships, characterized by respect for both one’s own and others’ particular identities and cultures and by productive collaboration to integrate multiple perspectives”
~ The identity is seen as a key part of contemporary college learning. But I think to have cognitive maturity and mature relationships one first has to have an integrated identity. One cannot understand what others are going through without first understanding themselves.

Pg 7 – “The slow pace of change in higher education, faculty training in their discipline rather than in pedagogy, and the historical bifurcation of academic and student affairs all contribute to lack of reform.” ~ I just liked this quote…absolutely nothing to do with identity.

From my perch atop that hill I could see each runner take one arduous step after another. After 49 kilometers, the idea of running up this hill for many was not within their mental strength. When people would come into view I would raise my voice and shout words of encouragement. Most would pick up the pace, some even started to run. With about one kilometer to go, this was the time to dig deep and they knew it.

I cheered as my dad made his way up the hill, once he reached the top I began to run the last stretch with him. It was amazing how fast he completed those final meters. Struggling to keep up, I ran with him to the finish line. At the age of 50 or any age for that matter the ability to complete a 50k race is an amazing feat. Who wouldn’t want to be in that kind of shape?

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During high school and for a year at the community college level, running occupied a major component of my life. Then I moved away and took about five years off. Recently, I moved back to my hometown, Eugene, Oregon. The running community here was rich in resources and a great place to run and belong. It didn’t take long for me to reconnect with past coaches and other supportive runners from the community.

Watching my dad run a 50k trail race on his 50^th birthday got me thinking about running again. At first, I started thinking of small goals, race a 5k, maybe a 10k. During one run early on, my husband and I started talking about kids, and when we might start having kids of our own. This conversation reinforced the fact that time is finite. That’s when I started to think big. I had heard about a training group for the May 2009 Eugene Marathon and decided to begin there. Then I thought about ultra trail races. What’s keeping me from running Ultras? I could do it, but you have to start somewhere, so I’m going to tackle my first marathon in May. Then work my way into Ultras.

Through this blog I will discuss and unpack the challenges, motivations, and epiphanies that come up through the course of training and racing.

Tôi đang viết về mục tiêu cuộc đời, vậy hãy xác định xem mục tiêu là gì? Sẽ có nhiều cách trả lời khác nhau, nhưng tôi rút ra định nghĩa về mục tiêu cho mình đó là:

Mục tiêu là kết quả cuối cùng mà chúng ta mong muốn để thực hiện một mục đích trong thời hạn xác định.

Hoặc đơn giản hoá thành công thức:

Mục tiêu = kết quả mong muốn của một mục đích + thời hạn để thực hiện.

Hiện tại nếu các bạn thử hỏi một anh sinh viên nào đấy về mục tiêu của anh ta trong tương lai, thường câu trả lời là “kiếm một công việc tốt”. Vậy “kiếm một công việc tốt “có phải là một mục tiêu? Tôi cho rằng đó là “một sự mơ hồ” thì đúng hơn, thử so sánh với câu trả lời sau: “Tôi sẽ mở một shop hoa sau 5 năm nữa”. Rõ ràng là câu trả lời thứ nhất thiếu thời hạn xác định và đồng thời kết quả cuối cùng thì rất mơ hồ vì “công việc tốt” là một khái niệm chung chung. Với câu trả lời thứ 2 thì mọi việc rõ ràng: mục tiêu = mở một shop hoa + 5 năm sau (chính là công thức trên).

Nếu các bạn đã đồng ý với tôi về định nghĩa của mục tiêu, vậy chúng ta cùng nhau trả lời xem mục tiêu cuộc đời là gì?

Trước khi thử trả lời câu hỏi này, tôi muốn nói đến mục đích sống của mỗi người chúng ta. Bởi lẽ mục tiêu là kết quả cuối cùng của một mục đích cho nên muốn trả lời mục tiêu cuộc đời thì chúng ta cần xác định xem mục đích sống hay mục đích cuộc đời của chúng ta là gì?

Theo Sevent Habits of Highly Effective People (Bảy thói quen của người thành đạt – tôi sẽ có một bài viết khác nói về cuốn sách này) thì mỗi ngày thức dậy bạn hãy dành 1 tiếng để suy nghĩ về mục tiêu sống của bạn. Hãy thử tưởng tưởng nếu bạn…tham dự đám tang của chính bản thân mình thì bạn muốn nghe gia đình bạn, bạn bè của bạn, đồng nghiệp bạn…nói gì về bạn? Những gì mà bạn muốn mọi người nhắc đến trong thời điểm này chính là mục đích sống của bạn. Bạn muốn nghe cha mẹ, anh chị em nói gì về mình? Bạn bè bạn, đồng nghiệp của bạn nghĩ sao về bạn…?

Tôi thấy đây là một cách hiệu quả để trả lời xem thử mình sống vì cái gì? Nếu bạn cũng thử làm theo cách này, tôi dám chắc bạn sẽ tìm thấy nhiều điều thú vị cho cuộc sống của bạn. Nhiều người đã làm cách này và sống rất hạnh phúc, thành công. Tôi tin là tôi và các bạn cũng vậy. Khi bạn đã tìm ra mục đích sống của mình, khi đó bạn mới có thể đạt mục tiêu cho cuộc đời mình đúng với những gì bạn mong muốn. Bạn không thể đạt mục tiêu làm bác sĩ tại một bệnh viện lớn sau 5 năm nữa trong khi trong thâm tâm, bạn chẳng đam mê gì cái việc kê toa cả…hãy suy nghĩ cận thận và trách nhiệm với chính bạn, nếu bạn không xác định mục đích sống của mình, bạn sẽ luôn đề sai mục tiêu và sống với sai lầm của mình.

Quay lại câu hỏi mục tiêu cuộc đời là gì. Sau khi chúng ta đã tìm được mục đích sống của mình thì việc tìm mục tiêu cuộc đời mình sẽ trở nên hấp dẫn và đáng để làm hơn bao giờ hết. Tôi không phải là một người đã thành công với việc xác định mục tiêu cuộc đời mình, cũng chẳng phải là một chuyên gia về huấn luyện kỹ năng này, nhưng với một số kinh nghiệm (từ khi tôi nhận thức ra tầm quan trọng của vấn đề này) đi tìm và thực hành các phương pháp để tìm mục đích sống và mục tiêu cuộc đời mình. Tôi có niềm tin rất lớn với những kinh nghiệm mà tôi đã thu được, rất có thể nó sẽ có ích cho bạn:

+ Mục tiêu cuộc đời là thành quả cao nhất của mục đích sống mà bạn muốn đạt được trong cả cuộc đời bạn. Hay còn có công thức: mục tiêu cuộc đời = thành quả tốt nhất của mục đích sống của bạn + toàn bộ cuộc đời bạn. Như vậy có thể thấy với mục tiêu ngắn hạn, thời gian có thể là 1 năm, hai năm hoặc 5 năm. Dài hạn hơn thì 20 hay 30 năm. Và mục tiêu cuộc đời thì đó là cả cuộc đời bạn. Tôi thường nhắc đi nhắc lại “cả cuộc đời” để nhắc nhở bản thân mình đang đem cả cuộc sống bản thân vào mục tiêu cuộc đời. Do đó, đó phải là mục tiêu có ý nghĩa nhất mà tôi có thể làm cho bản thân mình. Rõ ràng, nếu đặt ra một mục tiêu không có ý nghĩa cho bản thân bạn thì liệu có cần phải có mục tiêu, và đặc biệt đó lại là mục tiêu cuộc đời bạn. Hãy có trách nhiệm!

+ Điều tối quan trọng là bạn đặt ra mục tiêu cao nhất mà bạn muốn thực hiện chứ không phải mục tiêu của người khác. Do bị ảnh hưởng của môi trường giáo dục thụ động, phần lớn chúng ta chịu ảnh hưởng tâm lý từ gia đình và xã hội. Do đó khi đặt ra mục tiêu của mình, rất nhiều bạn lo sợ mục tiêu của mình không phù hợp với quan điểm của người khác. Nếu bạn cảm thấy mình như vậy, bạn có thể hỏi chính mình xem bản thân bạn có muốn suốt cuộc đời này “sống thuê” cho người khác hay không?

+ Đề ra những mục tiêu ngắn hạn và dài hạn cho bản thân là một cách hay để bạn có niềm tin vào khả năng thành công của mục tiêu cuộc đời bạn. Việc đạt mục tiêu không phải đơn giản và việc có thể đặt mục tiêu cho các mốc thời gian khác nhau của cuộc đời cũng là một bài toán hóc búa. Do vậy chúng ta cần làm càng rõ điều chúng ta muốn càng tốt, quan trọng là cân đo đong đếm được. Và đây là một công việc mà bạn nên làm hàng ngày: thức dậy sớm và dành 30 phút đến 1 tiếng để suy nghĩ về mục tiêu cuộc đời mình. Tôi đã làm vậy và cảm thấy tinh thần cũng như thái độ của mình trở nên minh mẫn và lạc quan hơn bao giờ hết.

+ Hãy luôn trò chuyện với gia đình, người thân, bạn bè và những người bạn có thể nói chuyện về mục tiêu của bạn và họ trong cuộc sống. Tôi thấy rất nhiều bạn khi nói chuyện về mục tiêu sống thì có thái độ lảng tránh hoặc ái ngại. Bản thân tôi cũng từng như vậy và nhận thất rằng để có niềm tin vào thứ mà chúng ta muốn thì cách luôn nghĩ về nó, nói về nó là cách hiệu quả để tăng niềm tin. Nếu như cứ cố lảng tránh hoặc khó khăn khi chia sẻ, tôi nghĩ bạn sẽ tự tạo cho mình một rào cản lớn để đạt đến mục đích của mình. Trong khi chúng ta sử dụng các buổi nói chuyện để phê phán mọi thứ xung quanh hoặc những chuyện vô bỏ, thì tại sao lại không thể dành thời gian đó để tìm hiểu về mục tiêu của mình và mọi người xung quanh. Tôi cam đoan bạn sẽ tìm được nhiểu điểu thú vị…

+ Một số cách để bạn tự động viên và tạo niềm tin cho chính mình: hãy đọc các câu chuyện về những gương thành công điển hình và tìm hiểu xem họ đã làm như thế nào, liệu bạn có thể áp dụng được. Bên cạnh đó đọc các câu mang tính động viên (hay còn gọi là quote) của những người nổi tiếng, các chính trị gia, nhà tâm lý học…cũng là một cách hay để tự động viên mình. Tôi có đăng ký maillinglist của Brian Tracy, tác giả của cuốn “Những nguyên tắc thành công trong cuộc sống” và là chuyên gia về phát triển bản thân để hàng ngày được nhận 1 câu quote và 1 bài viết về những bí quyết thành công. Cứ mỗi sáng check email tôi bắt đầu đọc câu quote, dành 2 phút suy ngẫm rồi sau đó đọc về bài viết những bí quyết thành công. Cách làm này giúp tôi luôn nhớ rằng mình đang tiến đến đạt được những mục tiêu của mình, tự động viên tinh thần khi gặp những vấn đề khó khăn…

Và dĩ nhiên còn nhiều cách khác mà chúng ta có thể áp dụng để đi tìm mục tiêu cuộc đời mình, tìm thấy niềm tin trong cuộc sống. Tôi thấy đây là công việc thú vị và hay ho nhất mà tôi có thể làm không bao giờ chán bởi việc thay đổi từng ngày tốt hơn và đi tìm mục tiêu cuộc đời chẳng phải là một việc quá đáng giá để “xài” thời gian có giới hạn của chúng ta hay sao?